Ae Dil Hai Mushkil: Ranbir Kapoor’s ‘Ek Tarfa Pyaar’

From a breezy college romance in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai to family dramas (or dramata) of different kinds in Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham and Kal Ho Naa Ho, moving onto a mature love story in Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna and My Name Is Khan, and then launching three of the most promising young actors in Bollywood today with Student Of The Year, Karan Johar is making a comeback with what looks like a well-knit love story, and thank God for that!

It’s definitely not the first time we will watch an extra-marital affair unfolding on the 70 mm screen, and definitely not the first by KJo, (he’s made KANK in 2006 and a short story in Bombay Talkies in 2013 that touched upon a similar theme) but it’s the first time I’m so pumped up to watching something by the director and most of it could be because I’ve practically grown up watching cinema presented by YRF Studios and Dharma Productions, having fed on masala Bollywood and feeling strongly for most of the characters. Of course, my most-favorite remain Amit, Shobha and Chandni from Silsila.

ae-dil-hai-mushkil-image-1 Ae Dil Hai Mushkil is all-set to release this Diwali and stars Ranbir Kapoor as Ayan, Aishwarya Rai Bachchan as Saba and Anushka Sharma as Alizeh. The film will also have Fawad Khan playing a special role (it’s got to be special, ’cause, Fawad…)

The first thoughts I got from the teaser that released this morning was… wow! An intense romance, couple-in-love, couple-out-of-love, a warm friendship and a melodious song in Arijit Singh’s voice. More so because everyone is looking so gorgeous in every frame! Does it make you feel “how can someone look so good?”ae-dil-hai-mushkil-image-1Ranbir Kapoor says, “ek tarfa pyaar ki taakat hi kuchh aur hoti hai, auron ke rishton ki tarah yeh do logon mein nahi batti, sirf mera haq hai ispe.” While we don’t have a chance of discovering what the theme of the film really is going to be, as per past reports from various Bollywood sites, the film is about an extra-marital affair and probably inspired by the 1977 film, Doosra Aadmi starring Rishi Kapoor, Neetu Singh (the couple wasn’t married yet) and Rakhee. To know that a film by Yash Chopra has been inspired into a film by Karan Johar is quite comforting because you know your minutes at the theatre, the long wait for the film and what-I-feel-it-will-make-me-feel-feeling after the film is not going to be a futile exercise.

While I listen to the song with such deep meaning on loop, click to listen to the song on Saavn. Twitter is abuzz with how the title song is similar to Hamari Adhuri Kahani’s title song, I want to ask how? Do you know?

Anyhow, here’s the teaser of Ae Dil Hai Mushkil:

In his recent interview with film critic Rajeev Masand, Ranbir Kapoor had sounded very sure of himself despite facing brickbats for his last three debacles, Besharam, Roy and Bombay Velvet (Tamasha was a hit, yes, but not understood by most of the audience, including established critics. An unfortunate situation for a beautiful film). We know why. *prepares to write something on Tamasha now*


Living On The Plus Side: Swarna’s Story

Swarna (while trying out a dress at a shopping mall): “Does this dress make me look fat?”

Swarna’s mother: “Beta, jaisi ho waisi hi dikhogi naa.” (Honey, you’ll look just like you are)

Her mom just said it and hoped she’ll laugh it off and forget about it. But she remembers. Because this doesn’t stop here. Swarna buys the dress anyway and resolves to reduce that ‘curve’, paunch being a better word just to be able to look better in something two sizes smaller than her actual body measurements. She is a successful girl, with an independent school of thought, and doesn’t believe in following certain conventions, like getting married and procreating before she ‘misses the bus’ at age 30. She is happy with who she is, and she knows who she wants to be, there isn’t any pretence about her.

As she grows older though, the stigma that plagues every single woman in a country like ours, gets to her as well. She has become a recluse, and this wasn’t by choice. It was the constant nagging that she has had to listen to all her growing up years that has caused this self-esteem problem to surface in her. Why are we talking about this girl, you may ask? Because like her, there are a lot of women out there who are forced to leave their identity behind to fit into what I would like to call a farcical face of the society. Lose weight or you will not look desirable, lose weight or you will remain unmarriageable, lose weight because men and women alike will laugh at you, lose weight because there won’t always be a Pluss, ALL and other brands that will come to your rescue all the time, lose weight because you will not be able to conceive. Okay. Thank you. Understood. Can a woman choose what she wants to do with her body? Have you asked her how she would like to go about this? Or have you checked on her every minute of every day to understand why she is the way she is? What she eats, what her workout regime is, what her sleep pattern is like?

Dear Sir/Ma’am, she could be a size 16 or 18 because she is built a certain way. What we forget are genes, lineage and cultural differences that play a major role in shaping up a person physically as much as mentally. She could really be big-boned, without an iota of fat on her body. Ask, before you judge.

plus-size-thoughtsHowever, before some of you feel that this is a rant of sorts on being called fat by people, I must assure you, Swarna isn’t me. Swarna is the girl who has been body-shamed by almost everyone she has met in her life including the aunty who keeps an eye on her to make her the topic of discussion whenever someone lends her an ear. As far as I am concerned, I look at life on the plus side and am content with that, but not everyone is a sponge (they don’t absorb :P)

All of this year I’ve been reading several articles on how one responded when she was looked down upon for being fat. My argument is, however much these words hurt, you cannot ask anyone to keep their gob shut. So then, why do their words hurt you? Do they earn for you so you can pay your bills? Either ways, it shouldn’t matter. Remember Deepika Padukone’s My Choice that released and earned mixed reactions from all over? This is where the real choice comes in, not choosing who to sleep with and how to take the number higher. Seriously, that is passé. Believe me, it takes a lot to give a cold shoulder to negativity such as this. I was once called a Fat Fuck by someone at work. What astounded me was that it was said by a woman I idolized for a long time till she worked very hard towards shattering that image of hers. Her bad, really. That’s not all, at 29.5 and highly opinionated, there have been many who have personally messaged me to tell me that I am ranting when I talk about things that affect me or just stuff that I want to say. And then there was this time in college when the rumor was I could never get a boyfriend because I was fat. Only if being single wasn’t a matter of choice just like being a hardcore romantic is. I felt the need to share this part with you to assure you that I’ve probably been as burnt as you have been, I just have the balls to face my issues and stand up for myself. With this post, I am only making an attempt to reach out.

A popular Facebook page, Top Knot, posted a video a while ago about what according to several wise people out there plus-size girls cannot do. It’s a pity I stumbled upon it only today else I’d have mustered the courage and written this post long ago. This was only an idea to start my own little revolution to help young girls fight issues such as these but the real motivation came today and I can’t thank Top Knot enough for that. Watch the video and read on…

As you saw, there are a lot of Swarnas out there, there are just a handful few who stand for what they believe in and feel they can lead by example. Not to sound pompous or anything, but I have been that motivation for a lot of seemingly out-of-shape girls whose minds are conditioned to believe that bye-bye arms and thunder thighs are the worst things to happen to a human being, more so a woman, hence the solution… keep it all covered. Never ever ever ever ever ever ever give her a chance to enjoy her youth, her beauty, her body. Grow up, please. Time isn’t waiting for anyone, none of us are getting younger, and celebrating each day is far better than crying over what could have been. Ask one who has lost something precious what the phrase, ‘for one more day’ means to them.

This is where I begin. I want to motivate young girls out there and I want to start right. I do not say don’t exercise, eat cup cakes every day and consider that sprint to the bakery as the best workout ever. Keep your organs healthy, your mind sound and your face glowing, everything else is just a number that will not matter when you grow older and reflect on life. Are you with me on this?

EDIT: Nora Whelan (Buzzfeed) puts the discussion of body positivity into perspective through this recent article of hers. Click here to read it: 

Once again, please share credit should you ever feel pumped by my opinion on things. It’s good practice 🙂 

Katrina Kaif Tells The Girls When The Right To Get Married Is In This Titan Ad

Last year, whilst writing for one of the websites I was working on officially, I wrote my thoughts on Katrina Kaif’s then much-spoken-about advertisement, When is the right time to get married? #HerLifeHerChoices.

The content obviously is very old, what with everyone talking about Ranbir Kapoor and Katrina Kaif being ‘it’ couple and planning to walk down the aisle very soon as well. Then something changed, and it’s invited many more speculations including Kat’s breakup being a publicity stunt for the epic love drama, Fitoor that released earlier this year.

Without further ado, here’s a throwback to that article because as old as the ad may be, the content is bang on and will be as relevant as the years go by as it is now because we love talking about marriages, attending them and liking pictures of people getting married on our Facebook walls.

READ: When Is The Right Time To Get Married, Ask Katrina Kaif

Also take a look at Katrina sharing pearls of wisdom on marriage and more here:

What’s your take on this?

We Need To Talk… About Katrina Kaif’s Abs

Awe is a small word for what I have been feeling every time I look at Katrina Kaif and her abs in Baar Baar Dekho. First of all, it’s not fair to anyone who believed that ‘curves’ were in, secondly, this woman is going to give a major complex to even herself from a few years ago. Maybe she wrote a diary when she was younger, deciding to look like this when she crosses 30:


For people like me, who have lived on the fluffier side of life for say, 29 out of 29 years, this is far from inspiration. Trust me, I am not feeling bad, at all!

During the trailer launch event of Baar Baar Dekho, Kat apparently revealed the reason she went ahead and did crunches, repeatedly… which was (no brownie points for this) her much-talked-about (and much-alleged) breakup with her long-term beau, Ranbir Kapoor.

I am now out of the self-loathing phase, almost! But do you see what she is doing? Women and men alike will want to know how she achieved this dream body of hers and yesss we have a new fad coming to town very soon! I believe I read somewhere that Katrina gave up water to get abs like these. Hmmm.

When Katrina dances (or walks), this is what you see:


While you notice the cool attire, you cannot take your eyes off THOSE abs:


And then she hits the beach so confidently seducing her onscreen beau with her eyes (we would like to think so!)

giphy2 A shaadi function follows where Katrina is seen wearing this lovely pink lehenga, but her abs are the main focus again:

tumblr_obczi2x8081rwbf4ro7_r1_540 Kya kar rahe ho yaar!

I did mention a few months ago how she was getting ready to make everyone jealous with that body of hers, I didn’t believe myself also that time and had to go back to this… 

Did you forget this, though? Don’t blame her for looking so hot, she gave us a hint well in advance.

thequint2f2016-072f44e88f4e-65ab-4996-9200-6643b8f57d7e2f17q9csThis one’s probably the look your neighborhood aunty gives every girl of marriageable age at every event or shaadi, also Katrina-inspired…

tumblr_obczi2x8081rwbf4ro2_500 Sorry aunty, everyone doesn’t have it in them 😛 

As far as ‘fitting’ into set notions of society like condensed milk in kulfi moulds goes, a few friends, classmates and colleagues heard about my new year resolution this year. I planned to learn the Hula Hoop and I wasted no time in rushing to a sports shop to buy a bright yellow one that now collects dust in some corner of the house. Obviously, two attempts at learning weren’t quite enough. Or I may have lied to you and this might have happened:


You see what I don’t see… dancing makes us even more jiggly wiggly:

a02dee0bd5d008ab_tumblr_metwlbciao1rj5u13o1_500-xxxlarge Happy & awesome

But, we’re cool nonetheless! Raise your hands if you feel what I am saying here and let me know what you think about this brutally honest post.


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