A Love Story (Not): Kapoor And Sons – A Heartwarming Story About The Little Things In Life

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The first -of-its-kind from the Dharma Productions’ banner, Kapoor And Sons starring Fawad Khan, Alia Bhatt, Sidharth Malhotra supported by veteran actors like Rishi Kapoor, Ratna Pathak Shah and Rajat Kapoor is not a love story, not a love triangle and definitely not what the trailers and the happy songs looked like. It is a heartwarming story about all the little things in life that we often miss when we go on living our daily lives, in a way we assume is living albeit in a robotic fashion. This is something you probably have heard, read, seen before, but getting the chance to see all this in a mainstream Bollywood drama is a fresh start for several reasons. We have stereotyped actors for playing the happy-go-lucky, sometimes wasted characters that bring so much weight to their roles that you may find yourself wondering if you knew they possessed the caliber.

Watch the trailer and you feel this is going to be another film about a dysfunctional family, because well, all families have their share of issues and skeletons in the closet, but they sail through. But Shakun Batra, along with his writer Ayesha DeVitre tells a Hollywood-style story in a very Bollywood fashion, with its fair share of melodrama and the usual stereotypes. Remember Tennesse Williams and his play, August: Osage County?

The songs, except the soul-stirring Saathi Rey (never promoted and aptly saved for the film) and the romantic Bolna (I believe to mislead the relationship the trio shares), are party songs that you automatically find your feet tapping to. Little do they tell about what lies in store for you as you spend 2 hours and 20 minutes in the theatre watching this marvellous story unfold.

Some of us who’ve practically grown up watching films made under Yashraj Studios and Dharma Productions’ banner, will agree that there was a wee-bit of tomfoolery we expected to watch on the screen since the trend of showing homosexuality and extra-marital affairs in our movies has thus far, told a completely different story.

Speaking of acting prowess, Alia Bhatt should have brought more to the screen with her much-evolved self. As an audience, I saw a more mature actress from Highway in Kapoor And Sons. She was the bubbly girl until she bared her soul on screen. In Sidharth Malhotra’s case, there were ample good looks I expected and little acting since he has always, atleast uptil now, managed to look extremely handsome on screen but has done little to show that models-turned-actors can really weave magic on screen.

Fawad Khan, Rishi Kapoor, Ratna Pathak Shah, Rajat Kapoor are the four names who we’re much better off not commenting on, we just wish they get roles where acting is a much-needed flair and star name isn’t a pre-requisite. It’s been a little over a year since we were exposed to Fawad’s acting prowess kind courtesy his shows on Zindagi channel, followed by a fairytale romance in the runaway hit, Khoobsurat. When he said in an interview that he was completely sold on the script, I frankly found it difficult to believe, given that I wasn’t expecting a deep story that I would find myself rooting for post March 18. If you ask me if the story made me cry, I will be honest, it did not. If you ask me what it did to me, then let’s just say this piece is a tribute to my true feelings about this beautiful film and as a film-lover, I would love to watch out for films like this from the Hindi film industry. The next from the Dharma Productions’ banner is quite the awaited Ae Dil Hai Mushkil that is said to place Ranbir Kapoor back on the bandwagon as one of the most-promising actors of the industry (some of us didn’t doubt that, though).

A version of this article was originally published on one of the sites I was previously working on. You can read it here.

How Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara Teaches You To Thank God For Every Breath

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When Zoya Akhtar changed the way the world envisioned female directors, especially in the Hindi Film Industry, you knew that you were getting yourself into a movie experience you would never want to forget. With a deep philosophical thought in the title, the film opened with something else altogether. The opening scene shows a guy and a girl in a romantic setting with the guy down on one knee, asking for her hand in marriage. Little could anyone have gauged what lay in store. Basically the guy in question, Kabir played by Abhay Deol, was a man with a heart of gold, the kinds that is called a ‘catch’ in real life.

Cut to the part that makes the film what it is. I am assuming that all of you who are reading this post have watched the film atleast once. Cause if you haven’t, then I will find you, and make you watch the film. Mostly ’cause this is one of the closest movies to my heart and became the answer to my loneliness when I used to walk aimlessly on the streets of Colaba uptil Marine Drive, sometimes beyond Chowpatty and back just to find a solution to where I was going in life. That was 2011. I had watched ZNMD 4 times in one week at a theatre that’s very close to my heart as well, the iconic Regal Cinema, all alone, and enjoyed each scene every single time. Since then there have been countless revisits to the movie, surely, but the first few remain unforgettable. 

This film also starred Hrithik Roshan and Farhan Akhtar in pivotal roles with Katrina Kaif and Kalki Koechlin adding the femininity in this high-on-testosterone drama. At the outset, this is an out-and-out guy film with three friends growing up together, going on to follow their respective passion(s) in life. I say passion and not dreams, because they hold a different meaning for everyone, and in most cases it cannot or is not the same.

So then why do I think that ZNMD is a film that teaches you to be thankful for every breath you take? Read on to find out:

A Competitive Spirit, Against All Odds

If Arjun (Hrithik) not had been driven my money, he wouldn’t have gone on to become equivalent of the wolf of Wall Street. In a candid conversation with a woman he fancies, it is revealed how after his father’s passing, his mother and he had a tough time getting by. Hence the reason behind his workaholism and his attitude towards personal relationships is understandable, and by the by justified.

Life-Changing Revelation

Farhan Akhtar uncovers a truth about his family that puts him in an existential crisis of kinds. When he tells his friends about it, they are obviously supportive, but it is a truth that Farhan has to face or hide in the deepest corners of his heart. His friends, however, are quite unsure of his ulterior motive of choosing Spain for his road trip. But, as they say, darr ke aage jeet hai

Dil Ki Betaabiyaan

As Farhan Akhtar recites, “dilon mein tum betaabiyaan leke chal rahe ho, toh zinda ho tum“, he has very articulately expressed a simple funda… if you’re desperate, you are willing to go on till you realize your dreams. Desperation, unfortunately is a misunderstood term in today’s day and age. It has little to do with being a untamed bull (pun intended) and a lot to do with how being laidback and adopting a lackadaisical attitude can cost you your time, which is more precious than the most precious gem. In the words of Fun and their popular song, We Are Young, we can make the most of our time while we are young along with making memories to cherish, we know we can set the world on fire by just burning brighter than the sun. In other words, we need to believe we are all stars in our own right.

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Khwabon Ke Parindey

I’ll elaborate this line with a few lines from the song,

Kahe yeh dil ke jaa udhar bhi tu
Jahaan bhi leke jaaye aarzoo

It speaks about following your heart, through and through. We all know of atleast one person who has already done it or has definitely spoken about “leaving their job to travel and explore”, yours truly is one of them. But is that a long term or a short term solution? Is wanting to break free a sign of escapism or does it have anything to do with wanting to let go because monotony has completely seeped in and there is nothing more that you can endure beyond this point? Honestly, that’s a question this blog or I cannot answer for you. Mere dil ki aarzoo is to write to make myself heard, aapki kya hai woh pehchanni zaroori hai…

No Afsos, Seize The Day, Carpe Diem

zindagi-na-milegi-dobara Because Hrithik Roshan (Arjun) is a workaholic and has no time for love or respecting his partner, because Farhan Akhtar (Imran) writes his secrets in his little black book and is living with a haunting present and Abhay Deol (Kabir) is all-set to get married but doesn’t want to… the course the film and the road trip in Spain changes everything for the three musketeers. For everyone who loved the film and continues to do so, each time is a new learning from it. Then there are some who feel it’s a regular bromance and has nothing much to offer, but we will address this point later. Yes, there are several Hollywood films that speak about following your heart and going after what your true calling is… but I don’t know of many such films that inspired me to say leave everything and go be a hermit or something. 
zindagi-na-milegi-dobara Looking forward to hearing from you soon, kya pata Kal Ho Naa Ho. ❤

Ae Dil Hai Mushkil: Ranbir Kapoor’s ‘Ek Tarfa Pyaar’

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From a breezy college romance in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai to family dramas (or dramata) of different kinds in Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham and Kal Ho Naa Ho, moving onto a mature love story in Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna and My Name Is Khan, and then launching three of the most promising young actors in Bollywood today with Student Of The Year, Karan Johar is making a comeback with what looks like a well-knit love story, and thank God for that!

It’s definitely not the first time we will watch an extra-marital affair unfolding on the 70 mm screen, and definitely not the first by KJo, (he’s made KANK in 2006 and a short story in Bombay Talkies in 2013 that touched upon a similar theme) but it’s the first time I’m so pumped up to watching something by the director and most of it could be because I’ve practically grown up watching cinema presented by YRF Studios and Dharma Productions, having fed on masala Bollywood and feeling strongly for most of the characters. Of course, my most-favorite remain Amit, Shobha and Chandni from Silsila.

ae-dil-hai-mushkil-image-1 Ae Dil Hai Mushkil is all-set to release this Diwali and stars Ranbir Kapoor as Ayan, Aishwarya Rai Bachchan as Saba and Anushka Sharma as Alizeh. The film will also have Fawad Khan playing a special role (it’s got to be special, ’cause, Fawad…)

The first thoughts I got from the teaser that released this morning was… wow! An intense romance, couple-in-love, couple-out-of-love, a warm friendship and a melodious song in Arijit Singh’s voice. More so because everyone is looking so gorgeous in every frame! Does it make you feel “how can someone look so good?”ae-dil-hai-mushkil-image-1Ranbir Kapoor says, “ek tarfa pyaar ki taakat hi kuchh aur hoti hai, auron ke rishton ki tarah yeh do logon mein nahi batti, sirf mera haq hai ispe.” While we don’t have a chance of discovering what the theme of the film really is going to be, as per past reports from various Bollywood sites, the film is about an extra-marital affair and probably inspired by the 1977 film, Doosra Aadmi starring Rishi Kapoor, Neetu Singh (the couple wasn’t married yet) and Rakhee. To know that a film by Yash Chopra has been inspired into a film by Karan Johar is quite comforting because you know your minutes at the theatre, the long wait for the film and what-I-feel-it-will-make-me-feel-feeling after the film is not going to be a futile exercise.

While I listen to the song with such deep meaning on loop, click to listen to the song on Saavn. Twitter is abuzz with how the title song is similar to Hamari Adhuri Kahani’s title song, I want to ask how? Do you know?

Anyhow, here’s the teaser of Ae Dil Hai Mushkil:

In his recent interview with film critic Rajeev Masand, Ranbir Kapoor had sounded very sure of himself despite facing brickbats for his last three debacles, Besharam, Roy and Bombay Velvet (Tamasha was a hit, yes, but not understood by most of the audience, including established critics. An unfortunate situation for a beautiful film). We know why. *prepares to write something on Tamasha now*

Living On The Plus Side: Swarna’s Story

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Swarna (while trying out a dress at a shopping mall): “Does this dress make me look fat?”

Swarna’s mother: “Beta, jaisi ho waisi hi dikhogi naa.” (Honey, you’ll look just like you are)

Her mom just said it and hoped she’ll laugh it off and forget about it. But she remembers. Because this doesn’t stop here. Swarna buys the dress anyway and resolves to reduce that ‘curve’, paunch being a better word just to be able to look better in something two sizes smaller than her actual body measurements. She is a successful girl, with an independent school of thought, and doesn’t believe in following certain conventions, like getting married and procreating before she ‘misses the bus’ at age 30. She is happy with who she is, and she knows who she wants to be, there isn’t any pretence about her.

As she grows older though, the stigma that plagues every single woman in a country like ours, gets to her as well. She has become a recluse, and this wasn’t by choice. It was the constant nagging that she has had to listen to all her growing up years that has caused this self-esteem problem to surface in her. Why are we talking about this girl, you may ask? Because like her, there are a lot of women out there who are forced to leave their identity behind to fit into what I would like to call a farcical face of the society. Lose weight or you will not look desirable, lose weight or you will remain unmarriageable, lose weight because men and women alike will laugh at you, lose weight because there won’t always be a Pluss, ALL and other brands that will come to your rescue all the time, lose weight because you will not be able to conceive. Okay. Thank you. Understood. Can a woman choose what she wants to do with her body? Have you asked her how she would like to go about this? Or have you checked on her every minute of every day to understand why she is the way she is? What she eats, what her workout regime is, what her sleep pattern is like?

Dear Sir/Ma’am, she could be a size 16 or 18 because she is built a certain way. What we forget are genes, lineage and cultural differences that play a major role in shaping up a person physically as much as mentally. She could really be big-boned, without an iota of fat on her body. Ask, before you judge.

plus-size-thoughtsHowever, before some of you feel that this is a rant of sorts on being called fat by people, I must assure you, Swarna isn’t me. Swarna is the girl who has been body-shamed by almost everyone she has met in her life including the aunty who keeps an eye on her to make her the topic of discussion whenever someone lends her an ear. As far as I am concerned, I look at life on the plus side and am content with that, but not everyone is a sponge (they don’t absorb :P)

All of this year I’ve been reading several articles on how one responded when she was looked down upon for being fat. My argument is, however much these words hurt, you cannot ask anyone to keep their gob shut. So then, why do their words hurt you? Do they earn for you so you can pay your bills? Either ways, it shouldn’t matter. Remember Deepika Padukone’s My Choice that released and earned mixed reactions from all over? This is where the real choice comes in, not choosing who to sleep with and how to take the number higher. Seriously, that is passé. Believe me, it takes a lot to give a cold shoulder to negativity such as this. I was once called a Fat Fuck by someone at work. What astounded me was that it was said by a woman I idolized for a long time till she worked very hard towards shattering that image of hers. Her bad, really. That’s not all, at 29.5 and highly opinionated, there have been many who have personally messaged me to tell me that I am ranting when I talk about things that affect me or just stuff that I want to say. And then there was this time in college when the rumor was I could never get a boyfriend because I was fat. Only if being single wasn’t a matter of choice just like being a hardcore romantic is. I felt the need to share this part with you to assure you that I’ve probably been as burnt as you have been, I just have the balls to face my issues and stand up for myself. With this post, I am only making an attempt to reach out.

A popular Facebook page, Top Knot, posted a video a while ago about what according to several wise people out there plus-size girls cannot do. It’s a pity I stumbled upon it only today else I’d have mustered the courage and written this post long ago. This was only an idea to start my own little revolution to help young girls fight issues such as these but the real motivation came today and I can’t thank Top Knot enough for that. Watch the video and read on…

As you saw, there are a lot of Swarnas out there, there are just a handful few who stand for what they believe in and feel they can lead by example. Not to sound pompous or anything, but I have been that motivation for a lot of seemingly out-of-shape girls whose minds are conditioned to believe that bye-bye arms and thunder thighs are the worst things to happen to a human being, more so a woman, hence the solution… keep it all covered. Never ever ever ever ever ever ever give her a chance to enjoy her youth, her beauty, her body. Grow up, please. Time isn’t waiting for anyone, none of us are getting younger, and celebrating each day is far better than crying over what could have been. Ask one who has lost something precious what the phrase, ‘for one more day’ means to them.

This is where I begin. I want to motivate young girls out there and I want to start right. I do not say don’t exercise, eat cup cakes every day and consider that sprint to the bakery as the best workout ever. Keep your organs healthy, your mind sound and your face glowing, everything else is just a number that will not matter when you grow older and reflect on life. Are you with me on this?

EDIT: Nora Whelan (Buzzfeed) puts the discussion of body positivity into perspective through this recent article of hers: https://www.buzzfeed.com/norawhelan/body-positivity-101?utm_term=.iia9LV2v9g#.hgwp46NapK 

Once again, please share credit should you ever feel pumped by my opinion on things. It’s good practice 🙂 

Katrina Kaif Tells The Girls When The Right To Get Married Is In This Titan Ad

Last year, whilst writing for one of the websites I was working on officially, I wrote my thoughts on Katrina Kaif’s then much-spoken-about advertisement, When is the right time to get married? #HerLifeHerChoices.

The content obviously is very old, what with everyone talking about Ranbir Kapoor and Katrina Kaif being ‘it’ couple and planning to walk down the aisle very soon as well. Then something changed, and it’s invited many more speculations including Kat’s breakup being a publicity stunt for the epic love drama, Fitoor that released earlier this year.

Without further ado, here’s a throwback to that article because as old as the ad may be, the content is bang on and will be as relevant as the years go by as it is now because we love talking about marriages, attending them and liking pictures of people getting married on our Facebook walls.

READ: When Is The Right Time To Get Married, Ask Katrina Kaif

Also take a look at Katrina sharing pearls of wisdom on marriage and more here:

What’s your take on this?

We Need To Talk… About Katrina Kaif’s Abs

Awe is a small word for what I have been feeling every time I look at Katrina Kaif and her abs in Baar Baar Dekho. First of all, it’s not fair to anyone who believed that ‘curves’ were in, secondly, this woman is going to give a major complex to even herself from a few years ago. Maybe she wrote a diary when she was younger, deciding to look like this when she crosses 30:

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For people like me, who have lived on the fluffier side of life for say, 29 out of 29 years, this is far from inspiration. Trust me, I am not feeling bad, at all!

During the trailer launch event of Baar Baar Dekho, Kat apparently revealed the reason she went ahead and did crunches, repeatedly… which was (no brownie points for this) her much-talked-about (and much-alleged) breakup with her long-term beau, Ranbir Kapoor.

I am now out of the self-loathing phase, almost! But do you see what she is doing? Women and men alike will want to know how she achieved this dream body of hers and yesss we have a new fad coming to town very soon! I believe I read somewhere that Katrina gave up water to get abs like these. Hmmm.

When Katrina dances (or walks), this is what you see:

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While you notice the cool attire, you cannot take your eyes off THOSE abs:

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And then she hits the beach so confidently seducing her onscreen beau with her eyes (we would like to think so!)

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I did mention a few months ago how she was getting ready to make everyone jealous with that body of hers, I didn’t believe myself also that time and had to go back to this… 

Did you forget this, though? Don’t blame her for looking so hot, she gave us a hint well in advance.

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tumblr_obczi2x8081rwbf4ro2_500 Sorry aunty, everyone doesn’t have it in them 😛 

As far as ‘fitting’ into set notions of society like condensed milk in kulfi moulds goes, a few friends, classmates and colleagues heard about my new year resolution this year. I planned to learn the Hula Hoop and I wasted no time in rushing to a sports shop to buy a bright yellow one that now collects dust in some corner of the house. Obviously, two attempts at learning weren’t quite enough. Or I may have lied to you and this might have happened:

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You see what I don’t see… dancing makes us even more jiggly wiggly:

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But, we’re cool nonetheless! Raise your hands if you feel what I am saying here and let me know what you think about this brutally honest post.

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The thoughts above are all mine. Please be nice and give some credit incase you plan on borrowing some of them 🙂

Making Memories 101

Mom said, “Beta, baarish mein matt bheegna, beemar padh jaogi. I would rather be careful hence I didn’t go for a walk when it began raining this evening.”

I said, “No one ever made memories being careful (by sitting at home). After all, we aren’t new-age Jules Verne.”

(Waah! Waah! *Self-pat on back for awesome comeback*)

Then I decided to amaze myself by leaving from work when it was still day and walked a few kms to get home, on the way saying hello to the beautiful sea and its waves riding high on a rainy day like today.

There are lessons for life one can learn from the sea, the waves, and the surf. Like Konkona Sen Sharma’s character in Wake Up Sid says, “iss badalti Hui duniya mein sirf ek samundar hi toh hai Jo badalta nahi.” It’s true. Fickle is fun, but not always (sorry Lavie).

I braved the heavy rain and captured some of those moments in my phone’s camera so y’all could see what I as looking at. I was making memories and reliving many but these are the moments that make you thankful for every breath you take.

And, here’s yours truly who just had to take a selfie in the rain…

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I love South Bombay. More so in the rains. If you feel the same, even marginally so, then let’s connect sometime.

P.S. A few sad posts later, I am going to try my hand at light-hearted posts soon. Feedback is welcome and appreciated.

 

 

Hello Handsome…

IMG_20160423_140504321.jpgA month.

It’s been a little over 4 weeks, a month to be precise since you decided to move on,

It’s ‘that’ time of the month when you’ll be remembered more than you are on all other days, the date will never be forgotten…

You chose it to be this way, there was no altering your decision ever, but the least you could do was give an inkling. The news has only caused me to turn over… disgruntled, and I can’t apologize about this.

Break-ups are always bad, especially when you’ve invested yourself entirely in the relationship. It’s true when they say that one person always loves the other more and in the process, ends up getting hurt ever more.

I am happy you have moved on, you should. But this is the moment I ask you to look back and see what you’ve left behind. An emotionless statue, perhaps, one who breathes because there isn’t another choice, one who works because that’s the best way out of any kind of misery, and the one who once hoped, but doesn’t know anything, anymore.

My empty bank account was often touched by your love. Now it’s as void as my heart that’s forgotten expression – love, hate, compassion, anger.

Should I say thank you?

No Sir, not today. Today’s not your day, it’s mine. The day I’m going to recount the events of the month gone by.

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The post has been written for Dad. He left us a month ago and I am angry at him today. Just today. I know we’ve all made ample promises to be happy and smile all the way through. But everyone has their days, don’t they? 

Dear Dad

My brother, Shubhang and I went this morning to pay a visit to our ailing father and wished him a bright and cheerful, “Happy Father’s Day”. As the day has come to an end, so has he… we didn’t know it will end so soon. We still had promises to keep. We still had a plan to scale Mt. Everest. I am alone in this journey now. His relationship with me was rather strange, more of a friend than that of a father. I have lost one of my closest friends today and I am never going to be able to move on from this.

His strange relationship with me extended to often being at loggerheads too, mostly because it was two headstrong people thinking pretty much the same thing, only looking in a different direction. I am unsure who is going to be able to fill that void after today.

I couldn’t find myself fall in love, ever. The idea of being in love always seemed paramount to me. He was my first-ever Prince Charming, and like all other girls, he was the epitome of the perfect man which no one could match up to. He’s chosen to move out of the competition, it seems.

Everyone spoke about hope and faith and miracles. Everything changed in a matter of a few seconds when he passed away a few hours ago, leaving behind his cold, lifeless body. I haven’t been able to shed a tear… my heart cried as I clenched my jaw when I put my hand on his ice-cold forehead. But I couldn’t let the tears flow. We’ve all been strong, we will always be strong and we’ll fight all the battles that come our way as time goes by. He too was a fighter, for he was the reason we learnt not to be scared of what life threw at us. Whether it was failure or setbacks… I am certain he had always been preparing us for the future. For this day.

As I write this to find my catharsis, I am letting all my thoughts flow that are perhaps holding back general emotions. For all those who have loved and lost, this is exactly how loss feels like.

The doctors said they tried their best to revive him, but nothing worked today. It’s strange how he decided to take this journey into heavenly abode without so much as giving us an inkling about it. We bid goodbye to him this evening and he was last seen with a light in his eyes, the one that you find in the eyes of a go-getter. Then what happened? We are all emotional people, we always had faith, we believed. However, that was not enough for us, or for him. The machines kept going ‘beep’ ‘beep’ ‘beep’ and we knew he was still breathing, albeit with much difficulty, but he was. As I closed my eyes every night over the last 11 days, I would hear the beep sound at the back of my head. I would want it to stop. But this is not how I wanted it to happen.

It’s the night of the 19th of June 2016, and I have lost my father, my friend and my dearest confidante – Col. Amit Sharma (01 October 1959…)

It is today he had also completed 35.5 years in service. I am proud of everything my father has done while he served in the Indian Army. We have lost our father, my mother has lost her companion and the Army has lost a very valuable officer. No militant, no difficult terrain, no people’s games could have made him lose this battle. It was this unfortunate, supposedly rare lung infection that did the trick.

Maybe I will be able to shed some tears, someday. Right now, I have to complete all those stories he said he will narrate to me when we planned to co-write a blog. I have to live up to the expectations he had from me and be the strong girl he and my mother had brought me up as. The fire in the belly must not lose its power. He wanted me to stay happy, and I will have to learn to smile through my tears, I am sure.

P.S. Dear Dad, if you ever get to read this, please know that both Shubhang and I will never let you down. We are just a little broken right now, we’ll collect the pieces and keep walking. Please be around to bless us, ALWAYS.

Turning 30: Is Age Just A Number?

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Not when you’re single, by choice or not; live with your parents, and most of all, are a woman, because there is no such thing as a happy, independent, headstrong woman who knows how to take care of herself. She always wants someone to take care of her. She always wants someone to maintain a joint account with her and God save you if you think otherwise. Someone or the other will always find one way or another to make you feel inadequate about yourself.

Everyone talks about Turning 30, the internet is flooded with articles and listicles on the topic. If you’re wondering why they always said that age was just a number, and that you must take it in your stride every time, then I’ll tell you why… everybody did lie. Not because they wanted to make you feel any better about yourself, but because they were all convincing themselves that they still have one opportunity after another to make it to their defined pinnacle in life.

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It breaks me to break this to you, but ask anyone who is 30+ (yes, when you don’t want to tell someone your REAL age, you say you’re something plus, leaving the guesswork onto others. Why do you have to lie? Did your parents lie when they conceived you, some 30+ years ago? I would imagine that would’ve been mighty difficult), how life is as a single woman, and they all have heartbreaking stories to tell. Why can’t the outside world just let people be? Don’t you have your own experiences to mull over? If your answer is no, then please stop reading this from this point on. You’re wasting your precious time that you could otherwise spend eavesdropping on someone’s conversation or passing futile judgments.

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Given that all you need is love, love isn’t all we need eventually. No Sir, I beg to differ. You, you and you, all of you who I am addressing through this post, if you’re happy to be single and are fighting several demons all the time, whether it’s at work or even at home, learn to embrace each moment of your singledom. Before long you will realize that the best years of your life have just passed you by and what you have left is nothing but regret. I hadn’t meant for this to be a silly, inspirational post for anyone out there, but I do hope I have been able to drive home the point.

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I still have a few months to go before my age too gets officially rounded off to the dreaded number 30, but I am sure it is something I am going to look forward to eventually. As a matter-of-fact, the late twenties have been the most-depressing for fear of what’s going to happen and what I don’t have or haven’t achieved. But over time it’s a mature decision to understand that we’ll have figured something out eventually. It’s not as bad as we thought it’d be. At this stage I say age is really just a number. Each birthday only makes you wiser than the last. Yes, everything takes a lot of doing. If only Rome was built in a day!

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About marriages, they too must happen, I reckon. What’s the point of rushing into anything just ’cause you feel this is the one for whom I will give up everything for and become a homely housewife to bring up his children? I am not demeaning this precious position, believe me, it’s just not meant for everyone and that, my friend, is not as big a deal as we make it to be. I once asked a married friend of mine, albeit a tad younger to me, what made her decide who she wanted to marry, what was that one thing that helped her figure who the father of her children would be. She said, you just know. So if you’ve thus far believed in SRK’s Rahul (naam toh suna hoga) from Dil Toh Pagal Hai and thought that “baadlon se koi pukaregi ya mere naam ka placard leke koi aayegi” then behen, aisa nahi hoga. These YRF characters don’t exist in real life. Mera The One is someone like DDLJ‘s Raj since October 20, 1995… I still wait, slightly impatiently, because it’s not great to be proven wrong. 🙂

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Until such time, here’s my mantra for life:

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And then some…

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Definitely a whole lot of self-realization,

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Yes, a lot of travel, each one a new adventure, because Bilbo, the dwarves and Gandalf gave me several travel goals. Someday…

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Anger Management

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Inexplicable excitement over everything. It’s okay if your co-workers think you’re high on something. Insanity is the best state of mind, afterall.

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Role model – Miranda Priestly. Always.

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Until such time,

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